Low sex drive in women

The sexual desire of women varies naturally. The ups and downs usually coincide with the start or end of relationships or with significant changes in life, such as pregnancy, menopause or illness. Some medications used to treat mood disorders can also cause decreased libido in women. The lack of sexual desire is a low level of interest in sexual relations, in which the affected person doesn’t respond to the couple’s desire for sexual activity. Although the two sexes may suffer from this problem, girls suffer more from it, leading to feelings of guilt.
Delfina Mieville Manni, a sociologist, and sexologist explain that men have been educated in genital sexuality, very focused on their penis. “Having Sex is a very powerful male mandate. Therefore it appears that the loss of erection is a big problem because a visible erection is expected in the man. Women, on the contrary, and in general, have not been educated in Sex.”
If your lack of interest in sex continues or comes back and causes one to affliction, you may have a condition called “hypoactive sexual desire disorder.” However, you do not have to meet this medical definition to find help. If it bothers you to have Little sexual appetite or reduced sexual desire, there are changes in lifestyle And sexual methods that can encourage you often. Some medications can also give you excellent prospects.
If your lack of interest in sex continues or comes back and causes you affliction, you may have a condition called “hypoactive sexual desire disorder.” However, you do not have to meet this medical definition to seek help. If it bothers you to have little sexual desire or reduced sexual desire, there are changes in lifestyle and sexual techniques that can encourage you more often. Some medications can also give you excellent prospects.

Low sex drive in women

The symptom of Low sex drive

If you want to have sex less frequently than your partner, neither is necessarily outside of what is normal for people at that stage of life, although that gap can cause distress.

Similarly, even if your sexual desire is less than it used to be, your relationship may be stronger than ever. In summary: There is no magic number to define low sexual desire. It varies from one woman to another.

Symptoms of low sexual desire in women include the following:

  • Lack of interest in any type of sexual activity, including masturbation
  • Not having fantasies or sexual thoughts ever or almost never
  • Concern about lack of activity or sexual fantasies

Types of lack of sexual desire

When the problem of lack of sexual desire arises, several types can be distinguished. The Murciano Sexological Institute analyzes them: 

  • Primary: primarily affects women who have never had enough sexual desire in their lives. It implies a zero capacity to have sexual fantasies and few behaviors with a sexual purpose. It occurs since adolescence and worsens in adults.
  • Secondary: those people have enjoyed a normal desire but who lose interest in sexual behavior.
  • Generalized: the affected person can experience desire neither towards his partner nor towards other people.
  • Situational: you do not experience sexual desire towards your partner but towards other people.

Causes of Low libido

Sexual desire is based on a complex interaction of many factors that affect intimacy, such as physical and emotional well-being, previous experiences, beliefs, lifestyle and current relationship. If you have problems in any of these aspects, your sexual desire may be affected.


Physical causes

A wide variety of diseases, physical changes and medications can cause decreased sexual desire, including the following:        

  • Sexual problems Pain during sexual intercourse or lack of orgasms can decrease sexual desire.
  • Diseases. Many non-sexual diseases can affect sexual desire, such as arthritis, cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure, coronary artery disease, and neurological diseases.
  • Medicines. Certain prescription medications, especially antidepressants called “selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors,” decrease sexual desire.
  • Lifestyle. It’s possible that a glass of wine makes you feel passionate, but drinking a lot of alcohol can affect your sexual desire. The same goes for illegal drugs. Also, smoking decreases blood flow, which can decrease arousal.
  • Surgery. Surgeries related to the breasts or genital apparatus can affect body image, sexual function, and sexual desire.
  • Fatigue. Fatigue from caring for children or family members who are aging can contribute to decreased sexual desire. Fatigue due to illness or surgery is also a factor in reducing sexual desire.

Hormonal changes

Changes in hormone levels can modify sexual desire, and this may occur during:       

  • Menopause. Estrogen levels drop during the transition to menopause, This may cause you to have less interest in sex, and dry vaginal tissues and, consequently, sexual intercourse is painful or uncomfortable. Although many women continue to have satisfactory sex during and after menopause. The libido of some s attenuated during this hormonal change.
  • Pregnancy and breastfeeding Hormonal changes during pregnancy, immediately after having a baby and during breastfeeding may decrease sexual desire. Fatigue, changes in body image and the pressure of getting pregnant or taking care of a new baby can also contribute to changing sexual desire.

Psychological causes

Your mood can affect sexual desire. There are many psychological causes of decreased sexual desire, including the following:

  • Mental health problems, such as depression or anxiety
  • Stress, such as financial or work stress
  • Low self-esteem of body image
  • Low self-esteem
  • History of physical abuse or sexual abuse
  • Negative sexual experiences in the past

Couple problems

For many women, emotional closeness is the prelude to sexual intimacy. So, a couple of issues can be an essential factor in decreased sexual desire. The decrease in interest in sexual relationships is usually the result of persistent problems, such as the following:

  • Lack of connection with your partner
  • Conflicts of unresolved fights
  • Poor communication of sexual needs and preferences
  • Trust issues

Tips for recovering sexual desire

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First of all, it is necessary to know the reason for the lack of libido to find an adapted solution. For this, it is advisable to consult with a sexual health specialist, who will assess all causes, both the most obvious and the least, to offer personalized treatment.

There are  some general recommendations to increase the sexual desire that may be useful :

  • Reduce stress and avoid fatigue.
  • Improve communication with your partner.  Talking about the needs, insecurities, and preferences of each can be of great help.
  • Improve the quality of your sexual relations. Pleasant experiences improve the desire and perspectives of subsequent sexual encounters. Therefore, it will be beneficial to dedicate time to the preliminaries, look for what stimulates you the most and makes you enjoy.
  • Consult with a healthcare professional about the possibility of taking medication.
  • Take food supplements specially formulated to improve the lack of sexual desire.

If you feel a low sexual desire, break the ice and talk to your gynecologist. With these tips and their help, you will be on your way to enjoying a full sex life again.